Emotional Intelligence

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Is money a very volatile subject in your home? Whenever the topic comes up, do you often feel yourself getting mad?

If so, you may be reacting to your conflict rather than responding to it.

 

Reacting is reflex. Put your hand on the hot stove and you’ll get a pretty instantaneous reaction – you’ll pull your hand away. It isn’t a thoughtful or contemplative action – it’s totally reflex, because your mind and body have been trained that hot stoves are bad 100% of the time. So pull back…now!

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I remember the day he came to see me.

“She’s just so emotional,” he said, as if he was talking about a disease. “About everything really, not just money. How can I get her to see that?”

 

“See what?” I asked. “That’s she’s emotional?”

Buddy, she already knows that. My guess is that she needs to see that you value her emotions as the powerful force for good they can be. Then, with that assurance, she can also see that her emotions don’t need to run her life (or yours)…just enhance it.